Sometimes The Heart Need More Time

19 Jan 2021 – To Accept What The Mind Already Knows

Sat: a powerful earthquake yesterday has rocked Indonesia’s Sulawesi island, killing many people as rescuers search for survivors. Prayers&thoughts are out to all effected in whatever way. Rescuers search for survivors at the Mitra Manakarra hospital in Mamuju city on Jan 15, 2021, where as many as 20 patients and staff are trapped beneath the rubble after the hospital was flattened when a 6.2-magnitude earthquake rocked Indonesia’s Sulawesi island. (Photo: AFP/Firdaus)

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/asia/indonesia-earthquake-sulawesi-dead-injured-13964422#cxrecs_s

Today’s Straits Times/ST – proud of my bro Leslie LAM for all his achievements, and for being the first to implant the AngelMedGuardian – a devise designed to warn patients to seek medical attention for AcuteCoronarySyndrome (ACS) including heart attacks. And it is also time for me to take a rest today or the heart will suffer.

The Flower Dome@GardensByTheBay was also featured in today’s ST. Looks nice, but doubt that I want to get enclosed in any crowded area, especially when my immune system is not as strong as it used to be!

Sun: appreciations for lunch@GeylangClaypotRice – Famous GeylangLor33ClaypotRiceShop now@BeachRd. Considered by many as one of the most popular in SIN, GeylangClaypotRice is also the last few ones that still uses charcoal to cook the rice. 

Good to catch up with bro Steven’s branch, Judy, Daisy, Clement, Stanley&Darryl – missing Vincent&family who are in Perth/Australia.

Nice ceiling lights at a Halal-French-inspired eatery – The White Label, where we had dessert, but somehow cannot imagine how French-Malayan fusion cuisine, made Halal and infused with local flavours would taste on my palate? Desserts were OK, too heavy&sweet for my taste.

Mon: appreciations to Andrew for the corks, lunch-company&walk to PP to the same hair-cut place where I usually get a cut for S$6. Am glad that he is happy with the results! One of my favourite trees on this walk, looked like the blooms on this tree-trunk are done for this round. 

Watched this BritishTVseries Fallen Angle on YouTube. Not only are the Brits best at humour, but brilliant at drama – excellent acting and well choreographed. Portrait of a psychopath with all 3episodes (1+hrX3), consistently disturbing and captured my full attention.

When stepping into the mind of a psychopath, you realize that there is something missing in their brain that they do not understand the consequences of their actions, in a sense – Lorraine Toussaint

Tue: hanging these 2plants outside the kitchen window and hope that they will survive without being a danger to anyone! Pick up a few things to start on the CNY mini-bags I make annually to give away. The mandarin oranges will have to wait until next month. Staying indoors to rest, snooze, watch movies and to organize around the 4-walls – amazing that there is always something to organize! Just managed to put away Christmas things and now checking on the CNY stuff. 

Birthday Week

15 Jan 2021 – What Over 70 Feels Like

Tue: as I leave for my grocery this morning in these wet weathers in between short spurts when the clouds were pushed away at BedokMall. Caishen 財神 God/Deity of Wealth kept a watch over me with a nice hot cuppa while waiting for the shuttle to Tampines Giant&IKEA.

Successful trip to Giant where they refunded S$17+ for the items I forgot in Nov2020. Could not resist this T-shirtS$5 as the OX is my year! Was hoping to get some food@IKEA but unfortunately what I needed or wanted are not in stock – bought this unusual little plant instead. Time to get the dying PoinsettiaS$12 (lasted for~a month) out and this succulent MiniJade Portulacaria afra, Elephant BushS$8 on the table for the CNY. Let’s see how long this one will last?

Yummy Dim-Sum Bday lunch@CantonParadise tkx to Audrey, my first co-worker, student & young friend when I returned to SIN in 1999. She tells me now that I am literally her oldest friend – hahaha. Met Audrey when she was in her mid 20s and somehow I cannot imagine she is in her 40s now! Same with some of my nieces&nephews who are now the about the same age as I was when I returned to SIN in 1999 – but then I am now over 70!! A must for my favourite mini-EggTarts here, but had to take away as we were too stuffed for desserts! Looking forward to our next lunch when I am planning to make Mexican!

Wed: doing some errands on this uncharted territory and less wet day.

Looks like they are ready for the CNY. 

Delicious TruffleWagyuBowl for dinner tkx to Gel. 1st visit to BedokMarketPlace and looks like there are some interesting eateries to try there besides TheBurningOak where we were.

Thu: many tkx to CC management&staff for a day early combined Bday celebrations for Estella, Sam’s father and I.

Appreciations to James for harvesting the fresh&yummy mussels&fish, and to Chris for driving me to&fro. 

to Estella for excellent Tequila,

to Cece, friend of Estella for this home-made cheese-cake, to Helen for the beautiful roses. Collage credits to Helen. Pix credits to all who sent attachments via message or WhatsApp.

SGH the whole morning from 0800-1300hrs on different scans, finally located what they were looking for, Hyperparathryoidism. Managed to dozed in 2 (30minsX2) of the longer scans! Surgery is the next step – nothing too serious but should be done before my metabolism gets more unbalance, as it is there is too much calcium in me discovered thru’ a few blood&urine tests from last year! 

Bday dinner@MadameFan (1st visit but will not be my last), where the fish was steamed to perfection and the DrunkenChickenSoup was up to par with my mother’s which I have not tasted since she passed on. Interesting JasmineTea Smoked-Ribs where the meat practically melts in your mouth. Tasty AugergineTofuClaypotwBlackBean&Chilli and WanTanBlackBean BeefHoFun was a different taste to the regular BeefHoFun.

The former BritanniaClub (1950s) and then the NCO-Club (1970s), now reimaged to present days, but still carrying some nostalgic of the colonial days. Good food&excellent service, the best service experienced so far – highly recommended. One of the waiters must have overheard our conversation about it being my Bday and we were pleasantly surprised with a complimentary plate of Longevity paus 寿桃包 

https://www.ura.gov.sg/Conservation-Portal/Explore/History?bldgid=FBRC

You know you’re getting old when you get that one candle on the cake. It’s like, ‘See if you can blow this out – Jerry Seinfeld

To my family&AT hiking buddies, Glenda&Franklin from NC/USA, thank you for your beautiful flowers, calls&messages to end the week. Am sooo totally blessed&spoilt this week!!

World’s National Dishes

11 Jan 2021 – Eat, Drink & Be Merry

Fri: evening drinking&snacking in good company@CC. Pink pomelo from MP market was juicy&sweet, appreciations to Desiree for the recommendation. Jan tells me that she can get pomelos in FL/USA. Tkx to Calvin for the Helinox pillow (new item in the shop), perfect gift as I was planning to buy it for my chair. Movie&snooze time in this chair are now tailored to perfection and will not need any other chair.

WilkieEdge, opening of a new restaurant/La Jia, do wonder how they can maintain F&B business in today’s circumstances. This cute cleaning robot got my attention!

Was not there for dinner, but could not stop admiring the all these colourful congratulatory flowers for the opening. Tkx to Henry for the CoffeeCake@Han’s which hit the spot for the sweet tooth. Appreciations to Lisa in HI for her thoughtful gift  (received today) to make sure that my teeth are supplied with toothpicks for as long as there are teeth in the mouth.

WilkieEdge on Wilki Rd reminds me of cousin Wilki in HI who always stay@Citadines service apartments next to this building when he visits. It was Nov2019, 1+yr ago he was last here with his bro David+2 of his loyal students from HI, Huang & Kim. Trust my cousin Wilki to pick a place on a road named after him – hahaha

Sat: Thank you to YusoffAbdulLatiff who has featured 5Temenggong Rd in the Jan-Feb 21 issue of Passage, newsletter of the Friends of the Museum. It is quite exciting to see the house where I was born and grew up in here. Looking forward to Henri&Reis’s book&website on TemenggongRd. Just a minor correction, RG1LAM SongKee is my grandfather, not father as stated in the caption.

Tkx to Les&Ivy for scrumptious dinner last night@Angie’s Oyster Bar & Grill – shellfish starters and roast beef done to perfection with wines to match the meal. Both the oysters&mussels were good &fresh, but slightly on the salty side. So if you are like me, do request them to go easy with the salt. Appreciations to Lee&Adeline+Isabella for the ride back to the EastCoast.

Sun: pleasant snoozing weathers last night and still raining today, got ~9hrs sleep, feeling energized for the next event which will start the week of Bday celebrations! ShangriLa Hotel – the Tree Canopy, a ceiling art by HirotoshiSawada (Japan), featuring thousands of metallic leaves. Compressed sculptures of Children Dabbling in the Water were sculpted by YiHwanKwon (Korea). Mistaken them as stools at first-sight – thank goodness I did not sit on them!

Tkx to Clement for HighTea, yummy&pretty-presented food in good company. It has been 7+yrs ago (Dec2013) since I was last in this location with the other AmyLAM! cousin from CA/USA to meet with another cousin, JoyLAM – both from granduncle LAM JeeChiew’s branch. 

Mon: receiving early Bday greetings, so might as well start celebrating as tomorrow is promised to no one and who knows what tomorrow will bring! In the meanwhile, let’s eat, drink&be merry. Here is a fun challenge to see how many National Dishes you have tasted – 

https://www.listchallenges.com/national-dishes-for-every-country-in-the-world

My results: 167 of 615  ·  27%

Did better than 96% of users on this list
Rank: #63 of 1,761 users on this list
Beat the average score of 64

The timeless in you is aware of life’s timelessness. And knows that yesterday is but today’s memory and tomorrow is today’s dream― Khalil Gibran/The Prophet 

All’s Well That Ends Well

7 Jan 2021 – Time Will Heal The Wounds


Mon: Grenseland/Borderliner – Norwegian crime drama series filmed in OSL. Glad to be able to watch this without subtitles as any other films not in English, subtitles are a must for me!

Tue: grocery day – trying to save on the promotions and bought more than I should have. Trolley-bag on wheels tipped over on the escalator@Bedok Bus-Interchange causing a fall, bruising&scraping the R-knee&elbow. Some kind souls stopped the escalator and helped me pick up my grocery. As my XX-father-in-law, John3, the orthopedic surgeon used say, that too shall pass – do not think any bones got broken, but sore around the R-ribs area and that too will soon heal.

Love all, trust a few,
Do wrong to none: be able for thine enemy
Rather in power than use; and keep thy friend
Under thy own life’s key: be check’d for silence,
But never tax’d for speech – All’s Well That Ends Well/Shakespeare

Saved S$4.09/Senior%, but will try and remember to not over-buy in future! Tue usually goes quickly by with grocery shopping and getting foods ready into small packages (enough for one meal) to freeze. Would pick up this amount ~1-2times per month and then will get bits&pieces of fresh produce or whatever I might need as the days go by.

Look what arrived in the mail today – made my day, especially after the fall. #4 is the one who has changed most in these pix. Vivid memories taking care of her first 14days when Linn had to be hospitalized after the birth in 2009. She is the only grandchild I had the pleasure to take care of so fully and such an easy cuddly baby – no complains, just happy as long as she was fed and clean diapers every 4hrs. 

Wed: Nollaig na mBan – Little Christmas or Women’s Christmas in certain parts of Ireland. Traditionally the last day for the Christmas tree to be up but also a day when the woman of the house is exempt from all housework! A day/night when women go out and relax, but for me it is time to take down the Christmas decorations.

Thu: putting away the Christmas decorations, 2020 has had the least decorations up ever since the start of decorating for Christmas. Also taking notes for 2021 Season’s Greetings+gifts list – the next celebration will be CNY, 12Feb, the year of the OX.

Of all the greetings, there is only 1 that is hand-painted – do look forward to receiving Inger’s (Sweden) artwork every year. 2019, she did not paint any, commented that I missed her lovely paintings. Also do like all the pix greetings, especially when I can see the difference of how the children have grown. Most of all, really enjoy hearing from each&everyone with their annual updates. Thank you for the gatherings with good company + foods,  gifts, and to all who took the time to write. Have been slacking with 2020season’s greetings, but will try to make it up, ie by getting the hard-copy&postage ready to be mailed by 1Dec2021. 

We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential― Ellen Goodman
Edited: when will this chaos, evilness&maddness stop??? Pix downloaded.
Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity ― Martin Luther King Jr.
I would rather be a little nobody, than to be a evil somebody ― Abraham Lincoln

Welcome 2021

3 Jan 2021 – 18/28 Temenggong Road

Fri: Happy New Year&TGIF on this 1st 2021 Friday – a good weekend and a Happier&Healthier 2021 to all.

Back dating one day to yesterday, Thu the last day of 2020. Appreciations to Reis&Henri in good company of Mr&Mrs XiaoXin+HaoHan for a yummy New Year’s Eve dinner last night@Temenggong Rd –  1st visit inside these amazing Artists-In-Residence B/W houses.

Strange to be back in my childhood grounds&surroundings – hoping to hear the blasts from the ships’ fog-horns at midnight, but somehow, things do not go according to the norm lately. According to George, it might be due to the masses of condominiums at the water front area, the ships move further away thus the fog horns can’t be heard. Tkx to the 2gongs, we managed to ring in 2021.

Did not manage to capture clear decent shots, not sure if it was bc of the moonlight or bc of how I was feeling? Focusing to not be nostalgic of times that seem simpler or of memory for long-gone moments. How to keep these memories and not be emotional? The crepitation of the cicadas+with a beautiful full moon playing hide&seek were of no help to calm the mind.

If memory is a lie we tell ourselves in utter honesty, who’s to be trusted?

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12144-997-1000-5
https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg24032010-400-why-memories-are-an-illusion-and-forgetting-is-good-for-you/

Knowing that my memories might be somewhat blurred&faded, but they are definitely not false or illusions. And whenever I visit TemenggongRd these words from Wordsworth pop up:

What though the radiance
which was once so bright
Be now for ever taken from my sight,
Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass,
of glory in the flower,
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind;
In the primal sympathy
Which having been must ever be;
In the soothing thoughts that spring
Out of human suffering;
In the faith that looks through death,
In years that bring the philosophic mind.

Today has been very wet, but a nice cool day, a day to snooze and to reflect.

Sat: another wet&cool day and it has been raining relentlessly the past 2days. How delightful to catch this shot thru’ the kitchen window – a little person who seems to be enjoying the rains, tempting me to get my rain-gears on to join in. Perhaps even more tempting for a swim, hahaha – swimming pix downloaded!

Bridgerton is an American drama series based on Julia Quinn’s novels London high society when debutantes are presented at court with Regé-Jean Page as Simon Basset, Duke of Hastings, one of London’s most eligible bachelors. He is certainly one hot&sexy eye-candy in my eyes! but do we really need those moaning&groaming scenes? Pix downloaded.

Sun: managed to do some grocery at the local market before the rains. Enjoy the ambience and checking out the latest gadgets, no did not buy any, but did get some dried flowers& mushrooms in this new stall.

Tkx to MeiPin for the ride to Les&Ivy’s steamboat dinner in good company of us in our 70s, the Chuas+MeiPin.

2 – Happy Bday Darryl
5 – Happy Bdays Gerald  & Leonard
6 – Happy Bday Cindy
9 – Happy Bdays Judy & Lee
10 – Happy Bday KeeYang
11 – Happy Bday Mick
15 – Happy Bdays Angie  & me! 
18 – Happy Bday Isabelle (SunSun)
19 – Happy Bday Kari
21 – Happy Bday Michael
22 – Happy Bday Katy
24 – Happy Bdays 15thUncle  and Ole K