From The Baroque Mood

27 Mar 2018 – To The Durian Mood 🙂 

Sat: the passing tropical rains were heavy in the early afternoon on the bus heading to TanjongPagar. Thank goodness they ceased by the time I had to get off and walk the short distance to TP Centre.

Leng was caught at SBG and could not attend but she had just as much fun listening to the rhythm of the falling rains – rain pix credits to her.

A pleasant Baroque afternoon listening to these young musicians (students of Christine Gan) performing Bach under interesting acoustic in the open. Poor cellist was sweating away, can’t imagine what it feels like for those boys in their smartly dressed suits!

Sim Keng Boon/piano, Lo Khin Marn/viola, Dale Henderson/cello. Lee Yan Chang/piano played the Arioso from Cantata BWV 156 and strangely enough that piece has been in my mind the past week before I knew that it is in the program.

Tkx to Unni for the memories of this pix from the 1970s Baroque evening performance by the TromsøMusikkonservatoriet@Ishavskatedralen/TheArcticCathedral with a harpsichord and under a much different acoustic. Music will always be a part of me, considering that I started playing the piano at 5, studied music and taught music…

Sun: enjoying Hollywood in Vienna concert on TV/Channel5 this morning. Such a lovely cheerful pick-me up way for me to start the day on this lazy drizzly Sun morning – pix downloaded.

Brought lunch from BkMerahView to sis-in-law as she is not too mobile after a heart procedure and her fall. Late dinner@328KatongLaksa. Wanted durian for dessert, but they were sold out on EastCoastRd.

Walked to TanjongKatongRd and out of the 3stalls here, only 1 still had some. Real SIN food – a bowl of SIN laksa&durian, shiok (Slinglish term I use only for SIN food) thru’&thru’. This combination of the laksa spices+durian can be too potent for ppl with weaker stomach as I discovered the following day. Felt the rumbling stomach after the durian, so rushed home to drink plenty warm water to flush out the system and was OK. Clem had upset stomach in the early morning hours and had to get meds for it.

Mon: no matter how strong a stomach, had to give it a rest today!

Tue: do not usually bother taking pix of rude ppl on the bus, but somehow today since I was sending a msg on the phone, decided to click this and the moment after doing so, she did put her feet down. Perhaps if we keep taking pix of such ppl, they might get embarrassed enough to put their feet down, or it is just wishful thinking from my side?? Well, at least one can choose to look the other way to the lovely bougainvillea blooms and the amazing sky than getting annoyed!

With HS&Richard – good to catch up with R who is here from Sydney visiting his mom (99). Tkx for yummy dim-sum lunch@ImperialTreasures/Ion. According to R and so true too, we have known each other since we were kids and are comfortable to be at ease to say what is really in our minds without feeling that the other will be offended or slighted. This always make an enjoyable get- together. A journey is best measured in friends – not in miles.

Lovely wet late afternoon and evening – tkx for dinner at Jo’s.

iLight Marina Bay 2018

23 Mar 2018 – TGIF In The Twilight Zone!

Wed: officially it is the 1st day of Spring today, but looks like the Groundhog is still seeing its shadow in many countries. Pix credits to Carlo/Norway, Nancy/VA-USA and Carmel/Ireland (where I have lived for over a decade in every 3countries, which are also home to me), all taken in the past few days! Ppl in here, take care, stay warm and be safe. Hang in there – Spring is just around the corner!

6th iLight, a display of light features have been designed with energy-saving lighting or made from environmentally-friendly or recycled materials. Do enjoy these lights and will take time to admire them when possible. MilkBottleCows by BP Loh/SIN.

LightPlay by School of ArtDesign&Media, NTU/SIN, Passage by SergeMahen/Canada, TransistablePlastic by Luzinterruptus/Spain, DancingGrass by Yuree&SiyoungKim/S Korea. Only in SIN can you find cows grazing in the grass and going thru’ twilight-zone 🙂

Random pix of the permanent scene, not just part of the lights’ display.

https://www.littledayout.com/2018/03/04/i-light-marina-bay-2018-10-things-know-festival/

 

Thu: SIN/Changi Airport has been voted the World’s Best Airport by air travellers at the 2018 World Airport Awards for the 6th consecutive year. I, for one like this airport as it is 20mins/.87cents bus-ride from my SIN-home! Pix of T4 from recent trip to HKG.

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/changi-voted-world-s-best-airport-for-6th-consecutive-year-10065554

FB privacy breach is in the headlines today and some ppl are deleting their FB accounts, cousin Karen for one and will miss her when she finally gets her account deleted. To delete or not to delete – too much trouble, easier to remove Apps and post less! 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/mar/19/facebook-data-cambridge-analytica-privacy-breach

A good one here for all the fuss with Big Data. My passport is in order for me to disappear off social-media if & when I choose to.

https://devrant.com/rants/605665/hello-gordons-pizza-no-sir-its-googles-pizza-so-its-a-wrong-number-no-sir-google

Dinner@SoupRestaurant/SuntecCityMall which has relocated but still in Suntec since my last visit. Yummy dark chocolate ice-cream@DarkGallery/MilleniaWalk – a paradise for chocolate ice-cream fans like myself! and one of the few locations still open at 2130hrs.

Stumbled onto some trendy chair designs displays in the open-space concept.

Fri: The Leisure Seeker****wanting to escape their grown children and doctors’ suffocating care, Ella and John go on a cross-country journey in their vintage camper, which they christen The Leisure Seeker. Their road trip takes them from Massachusetts to Key West, during which they recapture the passion that they have for life and their love for one another.

Enjoyed Helen Mirren & Donald Sutherland here who have much to say about old age with a powerful and sensible ending – a situation close to my choice as to how this life’s journey in my own TwilightZone should end!

Last stop on a long journey, as yet another human being returns to the vast nothingness that is the beginning and into the dust that is always the end – The Twilight Zone by Rod Serling

2017 Happy Thanksgiving

24 Nov 2017 – Cantonese Proverbs

Mon: anyone who knows me also know spoken Chinese/Cantonese in-spite of being my mother’s tongue is very limited! Found this fantastic link with Cantonese proverbs including explanation and how to say them, but am wondering why mainly with reference to ghosts??

Having such fun with this link – proverbs are short&profound that they catch my attention and interest. Wish that there are equivalent links for the English and Norwegian languages too.

https://writecantonese8.wordpress.com/2014/02/25/cantonese-proverbs-in-one-picture/

41. 放葫蘆 [fong wùh lóu] to throw a gourd=self-boasting, bragging. Do wonder if this one would be equivalent to singlish ya-ya papaya…

Tkx to Jenny&Bill for dropping by. Too lazy&tired to cook lately, just finger-food in the apt, continuing to the neighbourhood’s eatery for dinner. Pix credits to Jenny. Have been dying for durians and since it was the end of the day, got them cheaper and they were yummy.

Tue: loving these heavy morning downpours. Appreciations to Embassy of Ireland for the invite@The Projector to an educational&interesting screening of a documentary –John Hume in America: In the name of Peace. Anyone living in Ireland and was old enough to understand cannot forget 30Jan1972 Bloody Sunday.

Catching up with more old&new Irish friends

Trying out a new Irish brew with finger-snacks!

Wed: the best breakfast for yesterday and today – yummy durians!

Thu: Happy Thanksgiving/USA and there is sooo much to be thankful for. A bottle of Beaujolais Nouvea 2017 for old-times’ sake as I do not know of anyone who celebrates Thanksgiving here in SIN. Linn&Jeff, Katy, Ellie, John Sophie&James, May&Bjørn+Olai are always in my heart&mind. And to all my US families&friends – enjoy your turkey, feeling blessed to have y’all trotting&crossing my path.

https://amylamsg.com/2016/11/25/thanksgiving-2016/

Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.

Coco*****Despite his family’s baffling ban on music, Miguel dreams of becoming a musician like his idol, Ernesto de la Cruz Desperate to prove his talent, Miguel finds himself in the colorful Land of the Dead following a mysterious chain of events. Along the way, he meets Hector and together, they set off on a journey to unlock the real story&mystery behind the family history. Beautiful movie in every way and a good reminder to not forget you past&present family&loved-ones.

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UCD Alumni Event@Grand Hyatt: Top Industry Trends for 2018 – Panelists: Mark Hanley/BOC Aviation, Lisa Phelan/KerryGroup,  Kate Simpson/JP Morgan and Timoetheus Kayliang Lee/Coleegs. An evening of learning&discussions followed by drinks&canapés. Group pix credits to Jenny.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/141472281@N05/sets/72157689234447971/with/38849208551/

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Fri: Am still learning that you are never too old to learn. The day you stop learning will also be the day you are no longer 🙂 TGIF and also I can now officially start with the Christmas preparations! Happy&Safe shopping on this Black Friday.

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Tkx to niece May/Patricia for a wonderful evening@EsplanadeTheater with the production of  Ninagawa Macbeth*****with  amazing symbolic stage-settings and beautiful colourful costumes. This definitely is not your usual Shakespeare Macbeth! Did not know what to except and was pleasantly surprised with Ninagawa’s adaptations. The only problem was with the wordy and fast subtitles on both left&right – could not fully focus with the acting on the stage, thus missing out some of the drama.

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After the earlier heavy downpours, the evening turned out to be perfect outdoors and a good time to have an alfresco bite@Makansutra. Could have danced and walked all night outdoors in this kind of temps, but alas did not bring either dancing or walking shoes and caught the last bus back to the EastSide.

Good Over Evil

22 Oct 2017 – Knowledge Over Ignorance

Sat: Congratulations to Zai for the marriage of her only daughter Syazana to Mohamad Nazrin.

Tkx for a lovely lunch reception to Zai/mother and Hariz/brother of the beautiful bride@Novotel/Clarke Quay. Did not seem that long ago when Syazana&Hariz were just kids, now both married and Hariz is going to be a father in Dec!

Aisha&son Daniel (Aisha was pregnant with him when we were @MarinaHouse-1999 which does not exist now!), tkx to Aileen&Alan for the ride to&from to the hotel; Irene&daughter Phyllis who was one of my piano-students 15yrs ago.

Good to catch up with Peggy (classmate and friend from 1962/CHIJ), Carol, Francis, X-colleagues from H&H.

Entertaining evening@SOTA to celebrate its 10Anniversary, Sing’theatre presents Forever Young***a hilarious musical.

It is 2067 and a nursing home houses a group of actors who were previously pillars of the SIN arts scene. Looked after by their no-nonsense nurse, Sister Sara…

Let’s dance in style, let’s dance for a while
Heaven can wait we’re only watching the skies
Hoping for the best but expecting the worst
Are you going to drop the bomb or not?

Let us die young or let us live forever
We don’t have the power but we never say never
Sitting in a sandpit, life is a short trip
The music’s for the sad men

Can you imagine when this race is won
Turn our golden faces into the sun
Praising our leaders we’re getting in tune
The music’s played by the mad men

Some are like water, some are like the heat
Some are a melody and some are the beat
Sooner or later they all will be gone
Why don’t they stay young

It’s so hard to get old without a cause
I don’t want to perish like a fading horse
Youth’s like diamonds in the sun, 
And diamonds are forever

So many adventures couldn’t happen today, 
So many songs we forgot to play
So many dreams swinging out of the blue
Oh let them come true

Forever young, I want to be forever young
Do you really want to live forever?
Forever, or never – Alphaville

https://genius.com/Alphaville-forever-young-lyrics

Certainly do NOT want to live forever but as long as there is life in me, I will do my best to be young at heart and live it to the fullest 🙂 No matter how young at heart, did not make it to the hunt for Orionid Meteor Showers (01.00hrs). When age catches up, sleep is the priority!

IMG_0236IMG_0236aSun: wow! tkx for all your over-whelming ‘Likes’ and nice comments in FB for my latest profile pix. Might even like it more if you can read what is written on the chair 🙂

Must let YeeJit know what a good photographer he is. Sunday dinner@Jo’s.

This ordeal has been stressful for the whole family. Thank you and appreciations to all for your gracious support with kind messages and words – Good over Evil prevails for this Deepavali Festival. There are no doubts in me that my bro is good&kind and would be cleared, but it is sad and unfortunate that there are ppl out there who are mean and envious.

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/heart-doctor-leslie-lams-ordeal-three-decades-to-build-a-name-then-gone-to-bits

Mozart And Beyond

20 Oct 2017 – Deepavali/Dewali

Tue: inspection of gas riser by HDB. Nice quiet day of catching up with things to do around the 4-walls within! Dinner@Jo’s.

Wed: Happy Deepavali/Diwali from SIN to Balakrishnan & Mohan/SIN, Deepak/Nepal, Samarpita/Switzerland, Burhan & Ranjana/USA and to all who are celebrating this festival.

Celebrating one of the most popular festivals of Hinduism that spiritually signifies the victory of light over darkness, good over evil, knowledge over ignorance.

Little India in SIN where one can really enjoy the diversities of these festivals with such beautiful&festive lights, colours, foods, etc. Pix taken when showing PuiAh&YeeJit around who were fortunate enough to be visiting around this time when both the Deepavali/Little India and Mid-Autumn/Chinatown lights are on.

Tkx to niece&nephew for helping with all these shopping and ferrying them back up 7floors! Induction cooker (S$40) if gas should run out half way when cooking!! Did not like it, will be returning it. Should have enough toiletries, etc to last for the rest of the year!

Tkx to Hong for an enjoyable evening@VictoriaConcertHall and it has been quite sometime ago since being inside this concert hall.

Mozart and Beyond with re:Sound Chamber Orchestra, pix credits to Resound Collective for the interior shot.

 

Conductor Lim SoonLee, SIN-born piano soloist MelvynTan with in interesting performance of JonathanDove’s An Airmail Letter from Mozart.

Vietnamese supper@quán ăn việt nam***JooChiat Rd.

Thu: do need the next few days to really work on the TEDx speech and how do sum up an Off The Beaten Path life journey to hold the attention of an audience of boarding school students for 15mins??? Tkx to Audrey for her tips.

Was planning to end my speech with the below Chinese idiom, but perhaps it is not so appropriate for school students but more those who have been thru’ more in life –  need some inspiration to re-work on the speech!

井底之蛙 (jǐng dǐ zhī wā) The Frog in the Well as we know it, is a Chinese idiom that refers to a narrow-minded person who doesn’t see the larger world around them. After receiving this gift, it has provoked me to see this idiom in another angle. There is little difference between the frog at the bottom of the well and the one outside if they are living in discontentment. Perhaps it is better to be inside the well if one is happy just looking out to the sky than being outside and unhappy just looking into a dark pitch.

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Edited – Fri: such a relief for today’s news even-though I kinda expected it after reading and following his case for a while. Someone evil was out to get him and here is a definite case of good over evil – Happy Deepavali! Being as objective as possible, I know that my bro is a fair and good person and will always try his best to help.

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/cardiologist-completely-cleared-of-professional-misconduct-by-court

Damplassen

12 Aug 2016 – Ullevål Hageby

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Wed: last night the sky opened up and pour buckets together with the winds. This resulted in some of the tomato plants being destroyed. Rather comfortable sleeping thru’ the howling winds and the rains on the window panes.

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Tkx Ingrid for dropping in and for coffee at Bicks. Can never get enough of the fresh apple juice there! The surroundings are rather delightful, especially the tram-line with the old support. Another cafe around the corner from Bicks, but have not had the chance to try yet.

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Thu: tkx Mette for the visit. Another glorious day for a short walk in the area. Found a water-melon from Spain and the way the packaging was done reminded me as to how pomelos are packed in SIN. Had to buy it, NOK63, S$10.

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Damplassen/Dam Square is a space in the residential area Ullevål Hageby/Ullevål Garden City.  The square got its name in 1918. On the site was previously the so-called Swedish dam, said to have been built by Swedish prisoners of war during the period 1807-1814. Around 1920, a new pond with fountain were built.

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Around the square is the Neo-Baroque business and residential buildings in brick. The bakery Åpent Bakeri/Open Bakery’s furnace was built in 1929 and has seen several generations bakers come and go. It is still in use today. Their baked-goods are absolutely to die for. The cherry trees around the pond with picnic benches give a natural nice cozy touch to this space.

M&B previous place is near a road name Sorgenfrigata=Sorrow-free Rd.

https://amylamsg.wordpress.com/2012/06/15/hakuna-matata/

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Now they are in an area there there is a road name Eventyrveien=Fairytale Rd and sorrow-free, my life must be in La-La-Land 🙂 The apples here are RST – red, sweet&tiny. Now why did they not move to any of these roads with all the temptations to a fairy-tale land? Snow white in the winters and red apples in the summers and somewhere maybe a ginger-bread house too!

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Fri: another trip to NAV in the morning and hopefully the last one for this time round! Ugh… paper work and red tape, my less favourite thing on the to do list! An evening trip to IKEA to pick up some sales items. Traffic was bad, the grey and wet weather was not much of a help.

Fairy tales can come true
It can happen to you if you’re young at heart
For it’s hard, you will find
To be narrow of mind if you’re young at heart

You can go to extremes with impossible schemes
You can laugh when your dreams fall apart at the seams
And life gets more exciting with each passing day
And love is either in your heart or on it’s way

Don’t you know that it’s worth
Every treasure on earth to be young at heart
For as rich as you are
It’s much better by far to be young at heart

And if you should survive to a hundred and five
Look at all you’ll derive out of bein’ alive
And here is the best part, you have a head start
If you are among the very young at heart

Don’t you know that it’s worth
Every treasure on earth to be young at heart
For as rich as you are
It’s much better by far to be young at heart

And if you should survive to a hundred and five
Look at all you’ll derive out of bein’ alive
And here is the best part, you have a head start
If you are among the very young at heart

Songwriters: MARTIN, ERIC LEE/ROSS, MARK STEPHEN

Malaysia Tembeling Condos/Resort

26 Mar 2016 – Teluk Chempedak, Kuantan

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Mon: met Pat at T2 and had some time to show her the Butterfly Gardens at T3 which she was unaware of and I was happy to share.

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Been awhile since the last on a turboprop engine aircraft on this Firefly flight. A moist piece of banana-bread with a soy-bean drink hit the spot on this pleasant on-time 1hr flight from SIN-KUA.

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Met at the airport by Catherine&Lee who are locals there and appreciations to them for taking their time to be our guide.

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IMG_9788Lunched on this organic crossed between 2 local veg was delicious and crunchy and is planted in their organic farm. Local red fish was so fresh that I was practically sucking from the bones and fins. To be updated with names!

Local coffee-joint Hei Peng with charming personality and stories made a hot delightful afternoon flew by quickly before we got to the condo.

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Amazing sunsets and moonlights from the condo’s balcony and bedroom.

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Delicious dinner with C&L’s family was a privilege (clockwise: me, Pat, Catherine, Lee, Derek, Jonathan, Ching, Jing, Thomas, Gordon). Such a nice way to spend the first day of visit with more exciting stories about the people who were cooking for us.

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Tue: ladies finger or okra with lovely flowers, mulberries, miracle fruit (see site below), grapes, papayas, belimbing,  moringa and grown in C&L garden.

https://healdiseases.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/synsepalum-dulcificum-also-known-as-the-miracle-fruit/

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Refreshing veggie lunch at Vege Hut Cafe***where the coconut water is definitely more than ‘good for your daughter’ 🙂 and the flesh is sooo tender that it nearly melts in your mouth.

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Grocery shopping was an experience and the first time I see this sign Tidak Halal=non hala at the local pork butcher where good Chinese sausages are made.

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Drove to check out the shops near the Hyatt Hotel which is closed for renovations at present. The monkey by KFC were more than I could handle!

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Watching the waves hitting the rocks and the clouds is indeed a serene and relaxing way to pass time. The water is as clear as crystal and if you let your imagination run, these rock formations can create different pix in the mind. Life is good!

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Wed: app 25km NW from KUA along the Sungei Lembing Rd is Gua Charah, hidden in the hills. Side-tracked into some palm plantation to take pix of this rock in the middle of nowhere on the way to…

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the village of Sungai Lembing (app 42km from KUA) but not knowing that Wed is their day of rest most shops were closed. When I am be among these magnificent trees, shops are of no importance!

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Best YongTauFoo meal at the market made and served by what looks to be like 3 good-looking brothers 🙂 Baby squids were tender and the stock was out of this world. Yummy local-made noodles. Will just have to use the public toilets!

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The second richest tin deposit and the biggest underground tin mine in the world are recorded here.

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Nice and cool to walk into these tunnels away from the hot scorching sun at mid-day.

http://sungailembingmines.com.my/

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The museum brought back childhood memories –

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located on a hill and the porcelain water-filter which was long forgotten!

caught in a slight traffic-jam on the way to the Crystal House. A local Malay movie ‘Borrowed Heart’ was being filmed and was holding up traffic.

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The Crystal House has a collection of about 3,000 pieces of beautiful crystalline stones collected over a period of 19 years by an ex-miner Mr Lee from the quarry. The quarry had since also closed because the whole limestone hill have already been flatten but thanks to him we can still see the beautiful stones which ones filled the caves of the hill.

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The art of Sungai Lembing noodles making.

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Time to head back and did a detour to Gua Charah. Crowded and shoes had to take off to get up the caves. Opted to just head back to KUA. Preferred the earlier view from the palm plantation side!

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What a wonderful afternoon and a luxury to be able to soak in the sea-water on this quiet cove. The water felt out of this world and the sand-scrub was good for the skin.

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A dip in the pool felt like being in a bath-tub, not refreshing at all. Was told the stuffed-tiger was place there to scared away the monkeys.

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Good satay dinner at SatayZul****

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Thu: KUA is famous for its Salted Fish (关丹梅香咸鱼) and Chen Hing with the 3rd generation running it is the most reputable store it. A must buy for gifts to family and friends in SIN

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Walked around East Coast Mall (owned by SIN CDL). Delighted to stumble into a food-fare with tasting – my favourite kind of shopping.

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Thank you for yummy home-cooked lunch at C&L with this lizard feasting on a beautiful butterfly. Interesting Chinese tea tasting but could not drink more than a tiny cup otherwise, forget a goodnight sleep!

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Fri: TGIF and a Good Friday to my Christian family & friends. Tasty curry noodles for breakfast at HoiYin***Time to thank my host and guides for their most gracious and kind hospitality and will look very much forward to our next meeting when C&L will be in SIN next month to meet up with Christine&KV who will be visiting from UK.

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So long KUA – hello SIN.

IMG_9794Thank you to Catherine for sharing this most beautiful sign for the Chinese character LOVE with such lovely different combinations of delicate strokes to cultures and religions.

We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude― CR Swindoll